Your life is so much more important than you can see in this moment.
You need to hear that. People do not say it enough to you.
The diapers you empty out of the diaper pail, the rooms that are covered in toys or technology, and crumbs you pick up by hand because the vacuum is too daunting, is not your identity.
The smells that come from your home are not what you wear.
As you read this, your child may be interrupting you…and that’s okay, come back to it.
You feel empty. Who is filling you up when you are pouring yourself out (and over and over again) on tiny beings that seem to need you for their very existence? They need you for every. little. thing. As you pour yourself out – you pour milk, laundry soap, apple sauce – you feel empty. You need breathing room, alone time, and a few moments to smell the grass outside.
But the grass reminds you that it’s not cut and AGAIN you feel not only empty but overwhelmed. Maybe the smell of dish soap will do.
So you wait on children, and are not waited on in return. Your days are long, unpaid, and tiring. This is not what you thought being a mom would be.
You have been cooped up like a hibernating bear (without the sleeping part) during the last 4 months and have either been homeschooling or entertaining. After all, you are your child’s best friend when he can’t be with his friends.
You want to give up. No one notices what you do. Your child always wants more. What’s the point?
You, mama, are your child’s role model and safe place. If you aren’t yet, you will be.
You are intentional, the kind of parent that raises tiny humans that are going to build a better world! Your children would not survive without you. Your identity is mama, but also woman. You do not lose yourself because you become a mama.
You are a Mama with a capital “M”. Seer and doer of all, and you are better than you think! Do not compare, find friends that will build you up and help you come out of this hibernation.
You need a break, so find it! Take room to breathe even if that means putting your fussy baby down in a safe place and turning on some music. Make some coffee and enjoy the first few sips before it gets cold.
When you are empty, remember that we were not created to be a funnel of never ending flow, but to ask for help and to take a minute. Take two minutes. Give yourself permission. Remember God, who IS Love, sees you and loves you!
Because you, Mama, are the man!